Comments on: Domestic Violence

By: Sumanth

Sumanth — Fri, 23 Mar 2007 21:40:33 +0000

Please keep deleting my comments.

The suicide rate of men vs women is 64 to 36.

The figure of 37.2 is not based on yearly data, but a summation over a period of 34 years. The per year data is less than 10%.

By: Revathi

Revathi — Thu, 08 Mar 2007 13:57:33 +0000

I dont know if education has any relationship to how much abuse a wife tolerates. In western countries where everyone is educated, domestic violence is nearly the same proportion or even worse (I heard that it was nearly 40% in Europe).

By: gargi

gargi — Thu, 08 Mar 2007 06:18:41 +0000

prashant,
welcome to this blog.
i am really surprised it is as low as this !! And i am sure that it doesn’t include non physical abuse or even ‘minor’ physical abuse like an occassional slap!

By: gargi

gargi — Thu, 08 Mar 2007 06:12:38 +0000

Charu,
when you go down to the villages the ‘poor’ ‘uneducated’ ‘rural’ woman is far better at standing on her two feet and taking a stand than the ‘educated’ ‘professional’ ‘urban’ woman. i have seen and shot cases in marathwada where the women have come together to form support groups and self help groups that enables them to combat both poverty and violence. And, they are a lot more honest about the fact that they get hit and hit regularly.
But, in cities amongst the ‘educated’Â the levels of hypocrisy are extremely high. a friend – a senior management person in a leading media company – was beaten up. you could see the marks for the next few days. and she was in this ‘what will i do’ ‘where will i go’ and ‘what will people say’ mode.
i have close relative in an abusive marriage. And,everyone makes excuses for it. every f***ing person. and she says it is her dharma to stick by her man. and she is a phd. in woman’s studies. the irony of the situation.
i also think that it has a great deal to do with upbringing. my brothers will never hit their wives or daughters, because they saw my father set an example. my father never hit his wife, because in his family it was a no no. my grandfather who married when he was 25 and his wife was 11 – was not violent towards women because he was brought up by his mother – his father died early – and grew up respecting women.
It doesn’t take too much to stop it at the family level- just a bit of socialisation. However, at the national level it is a different matter.
I really hope that soaps will take a stand as far as this is concerned. Given that most of our leading ladies are ‘abused’ and most of our ‘heroes’ will possibly be convicted under the prevention of domestic violence act, it may be a good idea to show it in action.

By: Prashant

Prashant — Wed, 07 Mar 2007 16:21:59 +0000

So the results of the latest National Family Health Survey â€¦ whlich states that 37% of women in India face domestic violence â€¦ does not really come as a surprise to me.

Actually, I am surprised that this number is as high as it is – 1 in every 3 women in India facing domestic violence. Wow!

I am not sure this even counts non-physical abuse – anyone aware of studies on quantifying that?