Comments on: New Year’s Molesting — So What did they Expect ? http://calamur.org/gargi/2008/01/03/new-years-molesting-so-what-did-they-expect/ A Point of View Sun, 07 Mar 2010 15:15:28 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: gargi http://calamur.org/gargi/2008/01/03/new-years-molesting-so-what-did-they-expect/comment-page-1/#comment-1990 gargi Mon, 07 Jan 2008 03:55:44 +0000 http://calamur.org/gargi/2008/01/03/new-years-molesting-so-what-did-they-expect/#comment-1990 :) not at all. should have used some kind of separator to distinguish between divergent thought streams...... :)
not at all. should have used some kind of separator to distinguish between divergent thought streams……

]]> By: Nita http://calamur.org/gargi/2008/01/03/new-years-molesting-so-what-did-they-expect/comment-page-1/#comment-1989 Nita Mon, 07 Jan 2008 02:24:37 +0000 http://calamur.org/gargi/2008/01/03/new-years-molesting-so-what-did-they-expect/#comment-1989 oops you haven't deleted it. sorry for the mistake. I couldn't find it earlier as this post has so many comments. Please let it all stand. thanks oops you haven’t deleted it. sorry for the mistake. I couldn’t find it earlier as this post has so many comments.
Please let it all stand.
thanks

]]> By: Nita http://calamur.org/gargi/2008/01/03/new-years-molesting-so-what-did-they-expect/comment-page-1/#comment-1988 Nita Mon, 07 Jan 2008 02:23:11 +0000 http://calamur.org/gargi/2008/01/03/new-years-molesting-so-what-did-they-expect/#comment-1988 As you have deleted your response to my earlier comment, I think my now my comment does make me look like an idiot doesn't it! :) Please delete then this comment as well as my comment about the purdah. thanks As you have deleted your response to my earlier comment, I think my now my comment does make me look like an idiot doesn’t it! :) Please delete then this comment as well as my comment about the purdah.
thanks

]]> By: gargi http://calamur.org/gargi/2008/01/03/new-years-molesting-so-what-did-they-expect/comment-page-1/#comment-1984 gargi Sun, 06 Jan 2008 18:17:37 +0000 http://calamur.org/gargi/2008/01/03/new-years-molesting-so-what-did-they-expect/#comment-1984 Hi NIta Of course you haven't said that women have to purdah them selves... What i said and i quote <blockquote>When women, especially women who appreciate and value independence talk about a self imposed lakshman rekha - as they have done here, here, here, here - for safety and security, I understand and appreciate it….. There are times that I have thought and acted in similar ways…. but I am not sure that it is the solution.</blockquote> While the male bloggers that i read are outraged (I am sure that there are the 'they asked for it posts' but i don't read them) , quite a few of the women have talked about steps to take to keep oneself safe... nor have i said that you have implied or said women should not go to railway stations or anywhere alone. My point is that there is no where that women seem to be safe from molestation...if the onus is only on us to keep ourselves safe ... then it is going to be an uphill if not impossible task. sensitization starts at home.... I am sorry if you felt that i twisted your comment ...that definitely wasn't the intention..... Hi NIta
Of course you haven’t said that women have to purdah them selves… What i said and i quote

When women, especially women who appreciate and value independence talk about a self imposed lakshman rekha – as they have done here, here, here, here – for safety and security, I understand and appreciate it….. There are times that I have thought and acted in similar ways…. but I am not sure that it is the solution.

While the male bloggers that i read are outraged (I am sure that there are the ‘they asked for it posts’ but i don’t read them) , quite a few of the women have talked about steps to take to keep oneself safe…

nor have i said that you have implied or said women should not go to railway stations or anywhere alone.

My point is that there is no where that women seem to be safe from molestation…if the onus is only on us to keep ourselves safe … then it is going to be an uphill if not impossible task. sensitization starts at home….

I am sorry if you felt that i twisted your comment …that definitely wasn’t the intention…..

]]> By: Nita http://calamur.org/gargi/2008/01/03/new-years-molesting-so-what-did-they-expect/comment-page-1/#comment-1983 Nita Sun, 06 Jan 2008 17:20:23 +0000 http://calamur.org/gargi/2008/01/03/new-years-molesting-so-what-did-they-expect/#comment-1983 Kindly do not twist my comment. I have not said that women need to purdah themselves. I do not think that a womans dress has anything to do with her molestation. Or have you mixed my my comment with Prax'?? If that is so, I am very upset indeed and did not expect it of you. Also nowhere have I said that women should not go out to railway stations and the like so if you were referring to me in your new post, I object. I have said clearly that going out late at night on new years eve for example is dangerous and no I do not think women should do it. Not because it's morally wrong but because they need to be safe, the way the situation is in India. I don't know why we have to see these things in an extreme way. when a person is told not to go to a criminally infested area with a loaded wallet, does it mean he is told not to go out at all? That's a ridiculous conclusion. Kindly do not twist my comment. I have not said that women need to purdah themselves.
I do not think that a womans dress has anything to do with her molestation. Or have you mixed my my comment with Prax’?? If that is so, I am very upset indeed and did not expect it of you.
Also nowhere have I said that women should not go out to railway stations and the like so if you were referring to me in your new post, I object. I have said clearly that going out late at night on new years eve for example is dangerous and no I do not think women should do it. Not because it’s morally wrong but because they need to be safe, the way the situation is in India.
I don’t know why we have to see these things in an extreme way. when a person is told not to go to a criminally infested area with a loaded wallet, does it mean he is told not to go out at all? That’s a ridiculous conclusion.

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