Shefaly tagged me in a meme – on Lessons, in Hindsight . Essentially , what have you learnt from life…
- Don’t double guess your instinct - the number of times that i have – because i felt guilty about having strong first impressions, has caused me a lot of trouble and heart break. Today if my instinct says no… on something, I follow it….
- Forgiveness is a good idea, forgetting is stupidity . If you forgive someone for doing you some harm, great. It is always a good idea not to wallow in negativeness. But, be sensible about it … don’t let that person close enough to harm you again. Again from personal experience….I was a fairly stupid youngster
- Don’t wallow in self pity it doesn’t do anything except make you feel even more miserable……. go shopping, go out with friends, go on a holiday, read a good book, get involved and don’t obsess on something you can’t change.
- Pamper your Self - always a good idea. When the world seems crumbling around you, when time seems slipping out of your hands, when things seem like they can’t get worse ….. go and pamper your self. That doesn’t mean binge…. it means pamper your self. Go to the parlour, get a massage, go to a footspa, chill out with loved ones….. The world becomes a lot better when you are pampered. And most of us forget ourselves in the midst of all the chaos in my life.
- Have a life outside work – For a long time I didn’t. Now i do….. This includes people outside your professional circle, hobbies, interest groups…. It is actually good fun. i wish i had thought of it earlier !
- Don’t try and live your life based on other people’s expectations.… it will truly make you unhappy. I did, and i was. Now i don’t, and I am not…
- Keep time for your self – something i never did until 5 years ago. This is beyond your profession, hobbies, and special interests. Some time that you spend with just yourself…. It is actually a trip..
Update: the last one came to me when i was getting home from work….
- And, Lastly – you are more than your job, and your life is more than work. Don’t lose sight of that. I did… I was a horrible family member. I asked my brother if he could push his wedding date — i was launching a channel… and i was kind of miffed when he didn’t…..I was that silly about work. Not, definitely not, a good idea…
Thanks Shefaly – that was a fun meme. I tag Sunil, Charu, Amrita, Abi, and Peter …
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on Jan 21st, 2008 at 4:20 pm
Thanks, Harini for running with the meme. I notice you and I share some of our life lessons
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on Jan 21st, 2008 at 4:52 pm
i guess we have made the same mistakes
completely wallowed in it… terrible time…. in hindsight i wish i had done more sensible things like getting pampered, going wild in Italy on a wine filled holiday …. that sort of thing… what a waste of time 
i wallowed in tubs of self pity for a full year and a half
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on Jan 22nd, 2008 at 1:46 am
on Jan 22nd, 2008 at 9:02 am
Oh, this is a good one. Like Shefaly says, we seem to have learnt some of the same things
Thanks for thinking of me, will have it up soon.
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on Jan 22nd, 2008 at 8:22 pm
hmm……what have I learnt in hindsight? I’ll have to put some serious thought into this….since I usually don’t look back too much
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on Jan 23rd, 2008 at 9:33 pm
Harini, the path to the wisdom need not have been the same.
As they say a wise man learns from another’s mistakes. I have never indulged in self-pity but I have seen so much time and potential being wasted because of it, that I am even more determined never to indulge in self-pity..
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on Jan 25th, 2008 at 1:31 am
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on Jan 29th, 2008 at 2:09 pm
hi shefaly,
nice to know…. i had a good friend who metaphorically kicked me on the butt and dragged me kicking and screaming out into reality….
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on Feb 1st, 2008 at 12:21 am
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